Welcome to life my dear son,
Gianluca Roberto Sestito
June 15, 2018
7 lbs 2 oz | 20″
Born at home in Miami, FL
As I sit here trying to start this blog I get the chills thinking about this glorious day.Let’s start of by saying that ahead of this special day I spent my entire pregnancy preparing for the big day by educating myself on all possible aspects, by taking hypno-birthing classes, visualizing what my birth would be like, taking prenatal yoga, meditating, listening to birthing affirmations and relaxation techniques twice a day, swimming, doing acupuncture, getting massages and eating very healthy. I created a very relaxed, positive, and loving environment within myself and home. My fiancee and I, were fascinated with having a home/water birth but there are a lot of stigmas and miss-information around home births. First, let me inform you that only 2% of home births end up being transferred to hospitals, it is extremely rare. If an emergency is to arise, they are trained and equipped to handle at home. You do however, have a back up Dr at hospital. We decided very late in my pregnancy to go with what we originally wanted and throughout our journey we had a lot of family, friends, and complete strangers attempt to install fear onto us, which led us to keep quiet about our decision up until the baby was born. People thought we were totally crazy but after months of extensive research what was crazy and heartbreaking to learn is what hospitals do to mothers just so they can be home in time for dinner. Most “complications” you hear about, and are scared of, are created at the hospital. Childbirth is simply big business for hospitals and Dr’s and I don’t believe that’s how Mother Nature intended such a natural, spiritual, and magical time to be. Birthing is the most natural process, there is no need for a hospital or intervention, unless of course you have a pre-existing condition. I encourage anyone having a baby to do their own research and not to listen to what people and even doctors have to say. Believe in your power, in your intuition, and in your strength. Back to my baby’s birth story.. My “due date” of June 10th came and went, family and friends put too much focus on this date, (I suggest to keep this date private as it can be stressful for you), leading me to block calls and texts for a week which really helped me stay in my zone. On June 14th, I went for a swim in the morning, came back upstairs and youtube’d “yoga induction poses”. I did the poses, and bounced on exercise ball. Later that day I started to feel different sensations and I told Simone I thought baby was coming. At 8:40pm I felt something funny, I go to the bathroom and surely it was my mucus plug. How exciting, baby may be coming!. I told my midwife and she told me to time contractions which I refer to as “surges” if and when they began. At around 1:30am they started, at 3:30am they got stronger. Surges started to be 5 minutes apart lasting 30 seconds. The deep breathing techniques I learned in hypno-birthing class and thinking of the sensations as a wave and baby getting closer was the key to my success. I know I was supposed to rest through the night but I didn’t, 6am comes around and Simone took me outside to sun gaze (get my energy from the sun). I was exhausted as I did not sleep through the night, but merely focused on breathing through the different sensations my body was feeling. During this entire labor I was in a state of hypnosis ONLY focused on deep breathing and sending love to my child. Simone took care of everything, from talking and updating our birth team, feeding me, loving me, massaging me, you name it, he did it, he was beyond supportive and loving. My entire birth team ended up showing up early in the morning as I was in a warm bath to later find out I was only 2cm dilated. Everyone went back home and encouraged me to rest, eat and stay hydrated. Midwife came back later on making sure everything was progressing and monitoring baby and I. Early labor took 17 hours, it was the most intense work I’ve ever put in, each surge took all energy from me, but because of all these techniques I remained extremely calm and in control. No idea on what time of day it was or how long it had been. It looks like I was asleep throughout the entire process but I was just in a state of hypnosis. My team encouraged me to change positions every once in a while, which I did. I took long hot showers, hot baths, bounced on ball and “slept” or at least it looks like I slept. Sun went down and I remember my love mentioning to get in the birthing water pool. Throughout this day I had no real idea what was happening on the outside, it was like I was inside of my body but I did hear voices. At some point, I remember Simone saying he was getting inside the warm pool with me, he did and we began breathing together. I felt the surges much stronger and closer together. Simone could not move or breathe at a different time or my focus would not be 100%. At some point, my body started pushing through these strong surges but because I had learnt in hypno-birthing classes and in books not to push, to just breathe the baby down, I tried my hardest to resist it and really breathe through. In my photos and videos it doesn’t even look like I am doing much but that is because I learnt to direct the breathe back into my body in a “J” motion, so I did not exhale out after inhaling. I breathe in and out through my nose to direct the energy where I wanted it to go. My team saw some blood in the water and became concerned and asked me to get out of water. I did not want to move as my body was doing very intense work. My breathing at this point was a bit more shaky, Simone told midwife “Are you sure, I think baby is coming?!”. Midwife thought we had at least 7 + more hours of active labor which is what is considered to be “normal” in a first birth. Plus apparently they’ve never seen anyone so calm and relaxed during active labor, don’t ask me I was just completely in my zone. They get me out of the water to check me in bed, when she checks, she sees the head. I can feel the energies start to panic. Doula said, “well let’s get them back in the water” (as we wanted a water birth), Midwife said, “no time” (literally couldn’t put glove on). She said push, and again I had in my head I did not want to push because of the classes I took, I barely did and the baby was born at 11:40PM on June 15th, 2018. I could not believe it, did this really just happen? My baby is finally here, I did it! It was the first time in 30 years my midwife was not able to predict that the baby was coming. I went from 5cm to 10cm in 4 hours and 3 hours is considered too fast and a complication. I was high from all the different hormones released. Up until the baby descended you see no reaction in my face. I did not do forceful pushing, I did not yell once. Contrary to the horror stories you hear, this was a complete different experience. Exactly what I envisioned it would be or even better. When I held my precious baby I suddenly came back to life. I felt like I was in a different high vibrating dimension the entire 22 hours of labor. That moment, this entire experience changed my life forever. Although it was a long intense process, I could do this again and again. He was born 7 lbs 2 oz | 20″ of pure perfection. A mother and son were born, he was unbelieveably perfectly healthy and calm. We let his cord blood pulsate back to him till it was clear to then cut it. From the moment he was born, he was so calm, had anyone ever seen such a peaceful soul? just wow. I am mesmerized by this day and by the wonderful team of midwives, doula, and photographer who was a part of this magical and spiritual experience. To birth in the comfort of your own home has no price (which by the way, it’s by far cheaper than hospital birth). Thank you God, thank you baby boy, thank you team, and thank you Simone. I couldn’t of done this without Simone’s unconditional, nurturing, and loving support. I also want to give a special thanks to our photographer/videographer, not only was she the sweetest girl I ever did meet, she captured everything beyond seemingly well. To see what the best day of my life looked like on the outside was extremely special and had me in serious tears. I hope you enjoy our story and it encourages you to believe in your power. We women are strong and capable of anything. Do not let fear overcome your wishes. Fear and tension is where pain comes from. When you are relaxed, calm, and trusting all the right hormones are released. You let your body do what it’s supposed too, you trust it. Again, my birthing experience was the opposite of what everyone ever talked about although it did take a lot of preparation prior too. It was divine and yours can be too. You have all the power. I hope to inspire others and see home births become more normal as they should be. Only 2% of people in the U.S do home births. I am proud to be in that 2% and highly encourage you to be as well. It is the most divine, spiritual, non interfered experience of a lifetime and I cannot emphasize this enough. Birth with no fear and how mother nature intended. We did it our way, and it couldn’t have gone any better.
I hope you enjoy this footage as much as we did!
P.S Simone’s fathers name is Giovani, Simone’s middle name is Luca (which is what I was thinking of naming him at first) and my father’s, grandfather’s, and brother’s name is Robert/o. Which is how we came up with Gianluca Roberto soon after he was born.
All captured by @bellenwhistlephoto